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"Illusion"- Are You Fooling Yourself ?

"Illusion"



Are You Fooling Yourself ?

This is a question of self deception.

It is a state when you start creating your own suitable perception about an unfavorable situation by creating an illusion. Your mind stops seeing the harsh truth in order to be defensive and to have a win win flattering feeling. It is the easiest way to fool yourself. By denying the prominently visible reality, you train your mind to feel things according to your own choice where false is true.

In my observation it's the behaviour and gesture of a person and the circumstances of any situation which tells everything about his/her feelings and about that very situation. But still one may fool himself by not accepting the reality and creating his own picture related to that person or any situation to keep yourself in a perfect place .

HOW YOU FOOL YOURSELF (SELF DECEPTION)

  • You often stop accepting the harsh truth and put yourself in denial mode. Ignoring every evidence by not accepting the evident reality or change.
  • You build a fantasy of the situation or person according to your choice, ignoring all the flaws  to keep things in your favour.
  • You feel safe by completely avoiding the actual picture in order to cope up with the situation.
  • Sometimes you start feeling as if you have control over things which you actually don't. 

SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE FOOLING YOURSELF 

  • Sometimes you may feel exhausted or overburdened while doing something for yourself or maybe for others and you keep telling yourself, it's okay but actually it's not.
  • You may start creating your own new narration of any stuck situation. This is the game of your very creative mind where you convince yourself for the sake of finishing some unacceptable things. Giving excuses to defend yourself.
  • You have shallow feelings while doing something or you maybe more self-centred, which might leave you uncalm and defensive when challenged.
  • You ignore your inner voice which clearly differentiate between the plausible choices and those of your just improbable wishes which you otherwise wanted to come true.
  • You maybe unhappy but still pretend to be happy and in love. This would be just a performance and not a genuine contentment.

HOW TO CHECK IF YOU ARE FOOLING YOURSELF OR NOT
  • First of all check your emotions as if you are getting angry, annoyed or defensive when challenged. This means you are trying to protect a self deception.
  • While doing something or taking some decisions if you are twisting some facts for your convenience, take a pause and think again. This might be okay then but later you may regret and this may leave you unsettled.
  • Ask trusted people around you about your  decisions and your behaviour to know whether you are going the right way or doing things under some wrong influence. Take guidance from genuine ones at the very moment you stuck in some unsolvable situation.
  • Seek advice from the right person at the right time without living under the influence of any illusion. It's better to pull yourself out from any nuances before it creates any trouble for you. 
  • Being skeptical sometimes may save you from getting into unnecessary drama. So make some enquiry prior to be sure about the situation you are dealing with.
  • Question yourself whether you are rewriting someone's actions into a love story that only you are living. Make a clear picture before you fool yourself any further.
  • If you find yourself into some troubled condition because of some unwanted distraction. It's advised to keep your focus on the right issue without getting distracted.

WHY ILLUSION TO BE A PART OF LIFE

The point is why we give space to this illusion in our life. 

  • To justify your own thoughts.
  • To protect your ego.
  • To avoid painful truths.
  • To surpass failure.
  • To maintain hope of being perfect in any condition.
  • To live a desired life and portraying own kind of image of ourselves or others.
  • To feel good in any circumstances at any time. 

Fooling yourself often leads to self-defeat and internal conflicts which lowers your self esteem. Recognising self deception prior getting deeper would help you to bring growth in your life while an illusion keeps you stuck in a false reality, preventing you from choosing yourself and moving forward. In addition to this an illusion make things complicated over time . Build courage to face the reality even if it's hard. Always try to see the consequences before choosing any illusion. Choose reality over self deception to live a beautiful fulfilling satisfactory life. True reality is constructive.

Reality 👈 🚶🤔🕺👉 Illusion 

The choice is yours 😊 Let help others by sharing this post to understand their illusions and reality.

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